I am starting a thread that anyone can use if they want to post to me.
I have one idea in mind that I want to work on in this thread and that is to create a Newcomer's Resource thread. Once I create this thread I will lock it and I will be the only one to post on it, I am not sure that it will be stickied or not - however it will be linked in my welcome post, which for the moment I will list out here.
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Hello Cadet, welcome to your work thread! It struck me recently that it may be helpful to have a 'recommended books' thread - of course with MWD's excellent offerings at the top. But many of us have found other books dovetail in really well and support the DB approach.
The other thing that I thought is that many newcomers find the GAL aspect challenging, and I wonder if it might be useful to have a GAL resource area too?
I think you're doing a great job as moderator BTW...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am with Toots and V -- I love this idea. Great job!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
This is a great idea. Because there is so much information on all of the different threads, it is sometimes difficult and time consuming to find specific information. It would be nice for it to be complex in one area. I had recently asked for some book references and because I'm relatively new on this site, did not know there was already a place to go to look for this info.
I also agree with Toots that maybe a section on GALing would be helpful. I have also noticed some video references in some threads.
Thank you for taking the time to put this together. The information and advice you provide is always incite full.
I thought is that many newcomers find the GAL aspect challenging, and I wonder if it might be useful to have a GAL resource area too?
I think this is a great idea, anybody know of any good threads that exist here about this? Or Toots maybe you want to start a thread on the subject. I am hoping Mr. Bond will contribute since I think he has a different definition of GAL than me.
Also looking for any older threads that are not on the list so far, about any good subjects. Or any other threads that posters have read that helped them out.
