Thread title is for effect for myself to place focus emphasis on me and where I am going. Not to become self-centered but to have goals. The bike can represent the life I want - not all about the bike but rather, focused on quality, joy, preparation and yes - backbone.
W texted, “ do you think I should open up a retirement investment for myself? We have been doing our taxes together up until now. At some point we might divide our assets.” For context, I have a work pension and a retirement plan in my name (shared asset) with my higher income and W has a savings plan.
Ideas how to respond? Haven’t yet. I have been talking to L and also getting some financial advice for myself and our family but have not shared that with W. This is not an area of strength for me but I am getting informed and taking care of business to look after myself, our family and to leave a legacy.
She has fired you as her husband therefore she relinquishes her right to seek your counsel. I suggest not responding.
W texted, “ do you think I should open up a retirement investment for myself? We have been doing our taxes together up until now. At some point we might divide our assets.” For context, I have a work pension and a retirement plan in my name (shared asset) with my higher income and W has a savings plan.
Ideas how to respond? Haven’t yet. I have been talking to L and also getting some financial advice for myself and our family but have not shared that with W. This is not an area of strength for me but I am getting informed and taking care of business to look after myself, our family and to leave a legacy.
She has fired you as her husband therefore she relinquishes her right to seek your counsel. I suggest not responding.
Rockon has been told not to interact with her about 1000 times.
Rock you need to put your emotions aside. Treat this strictly as a business deal ONLY. Your only focus is to get the best deal for you and your S to secure YOUR future and only your future. Your W isn’t going to fall for you if you just roll over on this one. There’s no “nice guy” here. You need to be blunt brutal and go after what you’re entitled to Trust me as a woman i would find that far more attractive than someone who is prepared to roll over and be weak. Women like authority and strength and someone who can stand. It doesn’t make your future any better if you give her everything and you’re left with nothing you will just resent her, and she will know if she ever comes back she can just walk all over you again.
I have already decided in my asset splitting should H and I ever reconcile I will never be merging finances again and will continue to keep my financial autonomy. When I go down a path where I am doing a business deal for my children ( like I am currently in) I am protecting those assets from anyone and everyone now and in the future. As a LBS too, you need to flip your script and stop taking her feelings her thoughts and her wants into any of your decisions anymore
