JR, I like how you are prioritizing your kids. Remember this, they are watching you as an example of how to let a future spouse treat them. There is more at stake here than just your marriage, but also how your kids eventually perceive what a happy, healthy relationship is as well.
You've got this. Remember, it's always darkest before the dawn. Just keep moving towards the light at the end of the tunnel
“That sounds great. For a minute there I was worried you were getting cold feet 🤣
I’ve seen lawyers A, B & C. When I’ve chosen which one I’m using, they’ll be the place for your lawyer to direct all correspondence.
Can you watch the kids tonight? I’m going out with friends.”
And then leave without getting involved in a discussion, or if she demands to start a discussion, say “that all sounds pretty interesting, but we’ll have to talk about it another time.”
Be happy, aloof and disinterested. Time to flip the script.
Then go get some nice food and watch a movie, and grab a beer at a bar on the way home.
