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Ok, I was finishing up some end-of-the-month stuff and up late and a little slap-happy, so I got an enormous chuckle when reading this. Seems a little like "who's on first." Bttrfly I don't mean to be flippant about your obvious concerns, but the circular talk is quite funny.
So I haven't been hanging out here but I think what they are getting at is that it is a support board based on Michelle's books about saving marriages through Divorce Busting (TM) so they want to focus on the DB principles and the mission of the site. They probably don't want newbies coming here and getting scared by after the big D section and talk.
Just because you don't talk to your ex-h, doesn't mean you can't DB in your life--friends, relatives, tradespeople, workmates, pets, etc. I think we can all see the value of the DB principles in many areas of life. If Michelle hasn't yet written a book that is applying the principles outside the divorce setting, she should. (Here's a little suggestion for her, build a family of BUSTING marks--DRAMA BUSTING, BRAT BUSTING, HABIT BUSTING, etc.)
Pretty clearly they are trying to leave the door open for you guys to post and discuss the support-related issues. My guess is that this could also be a means to address some of the tattle-telling and complaining that seems to go on from time to time when things get a little heated (with associated disappearances and rumored bannings). Admins, do keep in mind that the First Amendment is truly what makes this country great. The remedy for speech you don't like is more speech, not censorship. We are the ones who choose to be hurt by words--we don't have to make that choice.
Frankly, I've always thought there were way too many sections for the number of people who regularly post. I don't know why they don't collapse them to 2 (I would keep a newcomer's section and then put everyone else into one in their newly labeled section). Newcomers are too raw, it's too much to think about everything that comes later.
This is a business, a trademark, and a site featuring, promoting and selling copyrighted content. You would not walk into say, an aromatherapy business and create a scene because you can't buy motor oil. If you did, the owner would be within his rights to remove you. Go next door to the auto supply store and you don't even have to ask where they keep the motor oil, it will jump out at you.
Aren't all the old posts archived? They aren't active threads. Why would you still not be able to find them? Does it ruin your jam if your conversations are in a private group instead of a public one? Does the name of the banner at the top of the section matter?
Children in a sandbox need rules. Don't eat the sand. Don't throw it in each other's eyes. Don't bury people in it. Some things are contextual, temporal and situational. Back when we had a real supreme court and they grappled with defining pornography Justice Potter Stewart famously said "I know it when I see it." Sometimes that is the best and only explanation we are given.
Yes, it is interesting that they don't want to answer your questions (and humorous to me that they use circular reasoning to avoid doing so). But also interesting is that you are so insistent that they do. Sometimes the non-answer is the answer. Sometimes things happen to us in life that we have no control over, seem very ill-conceived, and are without explanation. Sound familiar? How do we respond to that? If it involves a mouse and his cheese, we are told some will sit and do nothing and die of starvation, some will whine and complain and then go look for the cheese, and some will just say hey, there is no more cheese here, I'd better go find some more.
