How about putting this book in the recommended reading material that is at the top of the Newcomers' forum? It is stickied at the top. Attempts have been made to consolidate all of the recommended reading material there for one stop selections.
Google “John Kabat Zinn Body Scan” and use a few times a day whenever triggered.
Use that as a platform initially, and then do more reading into mindfulness training.
It’s essentially being able to step out of your own head and look inside from the first person. It can be a window into developing awareness of your bad thought patterns, cycles and triggers.
Google “stop sign imagery”. Can be a super useful technique for the short term.
And physical exercise. The answer to “I feel triggered, hurt, upset, overwhelmed” - should always be “I’m going for a 30 min run.”
It breaks the rumination, overthinking, stress cycle.
Recognize the feelings Allow them to exist Investigate how it makes you feel Nurture - be kind to yourself
If the triggers are causing more panic related symptoms, then I found that grounding exercises worked well for me. Focus on part of your body and then follow with your mind how it is connected to other parts. Feel the reality that you are you and that you are here.
SO, after a few years here, I finally found another book, besides DB that hit the nail on the head.. No More Mr Nice Guy, by Dr Glover. This book, which I am half way through as I write, is incredible. It hits home hard. It describes me to a "T". I cant go into details just yet, but if you can find it in yourself to get this book, you may find out why you are Mr Nice guy. Really not what you think it is. I am not a writer, and I will need to read this 2 to 3 times, to truly grasp it. But so far, it is an awakening for me. It goes into great deal how your relationship with Mom n Dad , society, and world events have shaped men in the last century.. Darn good book..
A lot of us make that book recommendation to LBHs. It is a great book. Most of us here suffered from NGS to some level or another. Recognizing that is a key. Yes the book is a great one and I am thankful to the mods for letting us make the recommendation even though it isn't a MWD book.
