If you can get to a place where her words and actions have little to no effect on your psyche and feelings, since she was at one time the biggest part of your life, then the rest of the people you come into contact with will have absolutely no impact on you no matter how poorly behaved they are!
I'm like 85% the way there. Compared to BD1 where I was like 5% lol It's true, survive this, and everything after will be piss easy.
She pulled another trick, applied for child support just before my trip. I had to spend two hours out of my work day with the agency to create an account. I discovered, of course, the information she provides wasn't correct. So there will now be a dispute process I have to follow. The process didn't upset me but it was an annoying distraction. I did learn thought that in IHS, she'll end up with practically nothing anyway.
On the plus side, I'm looking at 2 weeks free of narcissistic abuse.
toughtimes, fear is insidious. It keeps us stuck, it keeps us paralyzed, and the worst part: it causes us to bring about that which we fear most!
Fear of the unknown is very common and best worked through in IC. But learning to know that you will adapt and be okay no matter what is the key. But the fear of that you cannot get rid of her control is dangerous (see the third point above). She only has the control over you that you give to her. Lots of LBSs come where with manipulators for WASs, and it is frustrating at times because the simple truth of the matter is that the WAS only has the control that the LBS allows them to have.
You've got this! You're going to be fine no matter what the future holds, and you are in control of you! She is not. Remember that.
I feel I was a bit too strong here. All M should try to be saved as per DB principles. But sometimes you find it cannot be saved or should not by saved. That is how I see my sitch. The M cannot be saved.
