Sorry for not updating the past few days. My dad passed away and I have been busy with funeral arrangements, family, etc. Unfortunately I could not fly home (yet) as I am too far into my pregnancy to be able to fly safely (2 more weeks!). It is bittersweet as I know it is for the best as he seemed to be suffering more and more towards the end, but it is still painful to lose a parent. On the plus side, I am even more supported by my network of friends and family. They've been sending me flowers, food, helping with housework and being there to cheer me up. H has been around to help out as well, but despite everything, I feel lucky and I think my dad will be happy to know that I have a lot of people around me for support.
Congratulations AnnKay!! You have one of each now. Great to hear that you are doing better and that you don’t have feelings for your H anymore. That is a blessing as you are likely right about him running away again.
I am glad you have reconnected with an ex as a friend. I know you know this but just be cautious about turning it into anything more. Focus on your kids and on getting your life in order without your H.
Sending you warm long distance (((HUGS))) and wishing you and your children the very, very best!!
Congrats on the baby! Enjoy that beautiful girl :-)
Glad to hear the delivery went smoothly and you've gotten some support from your MIL and your H. Even better, that you're dropping expectations of your H - focus on yourself and the children for now. Maybe he'll come around and maybe he won't, but you'll be alright regardless.
Originally Posted by AnnKay
I apologise in advance again if my replies are slow again, as my time and schedule is now solely ruled by a 2 week-old. It feels like my life at the moment is in a pause where the universe is telling me to re-evaluate my priorities and actions, but I am OK with it.
Don't apologize! It's no joke to take care of a newborn. Just know there's people pulling for you.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
I am glad you have reconnected with an ex as a friend. I know you know this but just be cautious about turning it into anything more. Focus on your kids and on getting your life in order without your H.
Ann, I too want to offer congratulations! Giving birth is one of the most beautiful things in a very ugly world! (I will never forget being the one to "catch" my daughter when she was born.) I hope that little one brings you lots and lots of joy!
Thank you, Steve! wow, great job on catching your daughter when she was born. I nearly dropped mine as she was so slippery! at the moment she has brought me sleeplessness, but all good nonetheless.
I was coached well by the doctor. To grab her under the arms and then swoop her up on to mommy's tummy. Literally one of the greatest moments of my life!
I lot of the time people end up here because they spent the relationship invalidating the WS’ feelings. Accept that your H was hurting which lead him to do what he did. Is it a good excuse for his behavior? Nope. Is it fair that he hurt you worse? Nope. I always tell LBS that when they choose to reconcile and it is questionable whether there is remorse they are going to have to eat a lot of $hit sandwiches. Does that $uck? Yep.
I get the feeling you want to punish him for what he did to you. Is there truth in it?
