I’m back. Didn’t think I’d have to say that. Went through all this pain years ago and divorce to spend years reclaiming me and changing my life. Got married again less than five years ago and it feels like everything is slipping away again. I’m not even sure where to start. We aren’t separated but can barely be around each other when the kids aren’t there. With our kids we do great. But the rest of the time, wife seems so uncomfortable with me. Says she’s lost all attraction for me and the more she’s gotten to know me through the years the worse that has gotten. Hurts like hell to hear and just seems brutal. I’m trying to disconnect but my family is all I have. I remember some of the rules here. Focus on me and all that but I’m just so down it’s hard to get in a safe space and control me. Anyhow, this helped last time to post. Hoping it might through our challenges now.
Just apologized that it bothered her and we left it there.
Why did you apologize? There is nothing to apologize for. You validate that you understand, and that's it. Don't try make any sense of it. In her state she is looking for anything to fight about. No matter what you do, you'll be wrong and cannot be right. Focus on yourself, not her reaction.
