I don't typically go against the grain of the boards....
However, I don't know if I totally agree with you Job...
In most regards I do. Being respectful and not bullying in the cyber world....
However, Nothing LH said was untrue, and most newer posters do not know the background of the people giving them advice. I feel that during one of the most troubling times in a person's life, they should know who and the background of the person giving the advice.
In most cases, newer posters take our advice at face value, because they are hurting and in emotional pain. Therefore our advice, in all seriousness, could possibly be the difference between someone making it or not as a person, let alone the marriage.
The poster in question has has their threads removed for whatever reasons, so that information isn't available.
One of my favorite lines from the United States Declaration of Independence is....
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But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.
Essentially....anyone that has the ability, holds the responsibility....
And I feel that LH was being responsible and the real issue is the history and agenda between these two. So how do you silence one without silencing both ? (rhetorical here)...
LH, we've had some prolific posters here that have been Walk Aways....
Sandi2, and Smartcookie, and damn,....even Jack3Beans was a WAS....
So please don't discount the potential for some really great insight....
Traveler, maybe "own" your path to getting here. And realize that nobody is out to get you, and not every situation is someone bullying you. You are a WAS, no matter how or why it happened. Try approaching things from that angle. I think things might change for you then.
I also feel that there has been too much time spent on this bickering and that it has taken away from the true essence of this board...
DO WHAT WORKS.... FROM THIS DAY FORWARD.. STOP GOING DOWN CHEESELESS TUNNELS
And this clearly isn't working...
You BOTH have a lot of experience to offer, and it would be a shame to lose that.
We are in this together, we all want to help, and we are all still here for one reason or another. We all take, and we all give for personal reasons.
So maybe we support each other a little better, and realize that we are all trying to help, however it may or may not look to another person.
Principles before personalties. DB principles before disparate personalities. We are all here for one purpose: to help the newbie. If you can't help, don't hurt. The board is bigger than any individual conflicts, or it should be.
This means BOTH of you, in my opinion, not that anyone asked. The constant running to mods because someone posts something you don't like is not helpful to the board as a whole. Allowing someone to trigger you to the point where you post something you later have to apologize for is not helpful to the board as a whole.
The philosophy and underlying principles of this board is to be more including rather than excluding. People are welcome to read, post, and have a thread where they feel comfortable. The guiding principles of the forum are reasonable and clearly stated. Everyone who comes here is to be treated with courtesy and respect.
It is normal and fine to not agree with someone. Be respectful when interacting. Or you can just move to the next thread or post, and say nothing. You control you!
