In brief: separated for 15 months, h lives with OW, has kids 2 night per week. Wants division of assets, where he literally splits everything 50/50.
I feel much calmer today, woke up to the sounds of the birds chirping, the sun is shining, boys are back home today, life is good! If he doesn't want to talk to me about anything thats fine, means i have more time to organise my finances and life plans with no pressure. Im really trying to see the positives in this situation.
Kids are doing well, eldest has been in therapy and that helped immensely, DS2 is going to start shortly, as he said he wants to now.
Im also in therapy and that has helped so much. Im dating, we have been together for 7 months now. He has met the kids a couple of time. We are taking things very slow, as both have kids, but it feels good and meaningful.
Stbxh- is now engaged, continues to lie to her that we are divorced. He has applied for a divorce now, but isnt prepared to sort all of the financials, so im waiting for him to engage with that. Things are calm when he gets what he wants, he still remains verbally abusive in messages and can be intimidating face to face. But through therapy i cope so much better with all of that.
Its been over 3 years since he left and life has been so full, between work, friends, kids, travelling and now dating, i look forward to having a night to myself every now and then, when the kids are at dads and OH is busy.
