Well here we are 3 years on from BD and now finally divorced, not spoken to her at all in about 18 months.. D has left full time education and now working for the NHS
what can i say about life except its good and it hasn't killed me! i have met a lovely woman while i was walking with one of the walking groups i belong to, we kept being on the same walks and just hit it off, we have had holidays together and do a lot of things away from the group.. and long may it continue
so to all that are just entering at the BD stage - hang in there life gets better and the pain will disperse with time
Mark, great updated! Glad to see you doing well. On #1, so important to point out because newcomers think that this is going to kill them. Always good to see those that have been going through it for a while can point out that it isn't the end of the world. On #2, that is great! Keep up the GAL! #3 sounds great too, more GAL!
#4, her anger will probably never subside until she deals with it. You may want to offer her IC to see if that will help. I don't blame her for being annoyed with her mom. But holding on to anger is a self prison. Now young person should be imprisoning themselves with bitterness.
Easter update, well its been 18 months now since XW departed, i have done a lot of growing within that time! XW came by to pick my D up and i was home, she spoke and in that moment i realised i felt absolutely nothing towards her anymore and i was at peace with myself!
thinking about possibly meeting and dating again, as getting a few offers at the meetup group i belong to! a few ladies are asking for coffee outings away from the group- so things are starting to look up! nothing ventured nothing gained!
i am not looking for a partner at this point - i am looking for fun times and maybe more - but its not the main aim, i just want to be accountable to nobody for a while except me.
D has now got a job with the NHS and starting to enjoy life away from school, still very annoyed with her Mum - but not my problem so not paying any attention to it.
i am now looking forward to the next 3 to 4 months and getting out and enjoying the great outdoors
mark, God bless you as you start the next chapter of your life!
