Still feeling good. I really think that I had a mental dropping of the rope. So much so, when I came home for lunch, I saw his truck outside and I was surprised. I had not thought of him all morning.
Eagle, thank you for your kind words. I really just look at each day and not ahead, so making it one day at a time is very helpful. To realize that this has been 3 years is staggering. I will say, I am a lot more disconnected and we are truly roommates. We have conversations that are “fluff” (if you are going to the store, can you please pick this up? I need gas in my car, will you please fill it up?) I have learned from prior instances to not attempt for more than he can give. I am not disappointed with that. I am continuing to plan for MY future without him, I have things I need to have in play before that happens and I am ok with that. D27 is currently working abroad. So we are empty nesters until the holidays. I have things to do on my calendar and am looking forward to them.
My look for employment is ongoing, however, I do not think I will see the wife at the workplace anymore. Her husband,( the other boss )and I have discovered so much that she has done to undermine the business, I can’t even have sympathy like I did before. It is really bad and could have put the business in a bad situation. I know that this all began from her husband dropping the bomb, but she has gone off the rails. She told me before all of this happened that it’s no big deal if you get divorced and she promptly got a boyfriend. She had told me how happy she was and I know now, it was what she wanted me to see so I would not notice the theft. She stole an office chair! An office chair! It was an extra one we used when we needed to look at things together. But we are noticing things missing, so I guess anything goes.
Anyway, one day at a time is my new motto and it serves me well.
Retired! Good for you. I have heard retirement can be quite busy.
I don’t have any set plans for the Summer, but I am sure it will be fun.
I totally have a low energy wallower H and I truly feel that this is MY house and he just occupies a room.
I want anyone reading this that may be in a long term IHS or just beginning to deal with this weird dynamic that as time marches on, it really does get easier. I have done so much, and grown so much on my own that it is kind of exciting to see what will happen next.
Funny you ask about my job. My boss and I had the discussion yesterday regarding my work. I have a job as long as I want one. So that is nice to know that it is my decision. For the most part, I really enjoy my job and I am so close to home, I go home for lunch. So I might change jobs based on my needs, not because of someone (you are right, how can she look at herself) ruins a business. Thankfully, he has put a stop to her liquidation of the funds, which has caused incessant texts from her about how he has wronged her, and how dare he stop her from taking money. (It can be a lot during the day). I feel for him, even though he dropped the bomb on her.
My H and I are ok. Anxiety is fleeting. He is not rude by any means to me. Not verbally. He will leave without saying goodbye, but I am used to it and 9 times out of 10 he usually has just stepped out to get dinner, He is usually home daily by 6 and he takes a shower and goes to bed. He leaves before 4 am so i am alone most of the evening. Weekends, he works and I do my own thing with friends or family. I talk my therapists ear off a lot of why and what I am doing, and it is all part of an exit plan. I just have to be day to day, or it becomes very overwhelming.
