So it has been a few more years since I have posted here. I have been working and raising my kids as best I can. My DD is a junior in college and got a scholarship in choir of all things. She is a very talented singer and musician. She aspires to be a high school music teacher and I am very proud of her. My DS is a senior in high school and has excelled academically to heights I never imagined. It’s looking like he will get a full ride to pretty much any school he chooses. Couldn’t be more proud. The ex and I have essentially been nothing more than business partners and nothing more. She has long since been over her midlife crisis and now she lives alone and just exists as far as I can tell. I wish the best for her and whatever she decides to do but I can’t have anything to do with her except for when dealing with the kids. My current wife and I have been married now for going on seven years! We are both looking forward to being empty nesters and moving out to the country. I truly thank everyone here for all the support throughout some of the toughest times in my life and encourage anyone that has found themselves in this horrible situation to read through others posts and learn from them that there is hope, there is life outside of the despair you may be feeling, and there are some amazing stories of rising above and beginning anew. Never give up and never give in.
Its nice to hear this story after so many years of dealing with the situation many of us are fresher out of. Its a great way of knowing there is something to look forward to and a metaphorical light at the end of the tunnel. The reality is, we cannot change people and in the end we have to realize our value and worth. Many of us while we are knee deep in the mud, we never think or envision that there is someone better out there for us. The reality is there are broken people who cannot handle difficulties in life, unfortunately we become the collateral damage. Its nice to see your story and that youve found your happiness, i did not read your full thread but after a certain amount of posts here we begin seeing a pattern that replicates and repeats, almost like a template. Good luck and hopefully there will be more good fortune for you
Amen. I have a D16 and it's interesting age simultaneously supporting their independence and nudging them in the preferred direction. At 17, I would probably choose the same as you--supporting her as she's almost an adult--but it must be tough to see her go. I'm glad you have enough trust in your ex to finish the job of raising your daughter well.
Originally Posted by 2lt2lt
he is definitely a polar opposite of me. He can’t keep a job, has wrecked several vehicles since they have been together and is living rent free in my ex’s mother’s rent house. So I don’t really understand what she sees in the guy but what can you do?
I'm definitely less financially stable and well-off than my GF's XH. My GF has her finances covered--she's looking for a deeper emotional and physical connection. If you both found people who better meet your needs, how great something positive came out of this and you're both stable parents.
lol. Only Cws could look at her boyfriend as a positive lol.
Amen. I have a D16 and it's interesting age simultaneously supporting their independence and nudging them in the preferred direction. At 17, I would probably choose the same as you--supporting her as she's almost an adult--but it must be tough to see her go. I'm glad you have enough trust in your ex to finish the job of raising your daughter well.
Originally Posted by 2lt2lt
he is definitely a polar opposite of me. He can’t keep a job, has wrecked several vehicles since they have been together and is living rent free in my ex’s mother’s rent house. So I don’t really understand what she sees in the guy but what can you do?
I'm definitely less financially stable and well-off than my GF's XH. My GF has her finances covered--she's looking for a deeper emotional and physical connection. If you both found people who better meet your needs, how great something positive came out of this and you're both stable parents.
It's been a minute since I updated here. Now WW is undecided again. She has agreed to give it more time and see how things develop. I take it as a good sign right now.
Four years later and I reread my posts here. So much has changed and so much has stayed the same. I’m remarried now to my first high school sweetheart that I wrote about in my early posts. Crazy how much has happened since the dark days of limbo with my ex. I appreciate all of the advice and kind words from everyone here and hope for the best for all.
It nice to see you pop in and sharing your rising above. At the start, one is just trying to survive their truly horrible time. And in time, one actually survives and thrives their situation; doing their inner work, becoming a better version of themselves.
I understand your pride in your kids. Congratulations! They have certainly reached some lofty goals. I hope they continue and work towards their aspirations.
And congrats on your relationship. Seven years! I found empty nesting to be, oddly, a welcomed stage of life. I suppose that indicates how comfortable and accepting one is, which I infer you are quite comfortable in your skin.
Its nice to hear this story after so many years of dealing with the situation many of us are fresher out of. Its a great way of knowing there is something to look forward to and a metaphorical light at the end of the tunnel. The reality is, we cannot change people and in the end we have to realize our value and worth. Many of us while we are knee deep in the mud, we never think or envision that there is someone better out there for us. The reality is there are broken people who cannot handle difficulties in life, unfortunately we become the collateral damage. Its nice to see your story and that youve found your happiness, i did not read your full thread but after a certain amount of posts here we begin seeing a pattern that replicates and repeats, almost like a template. Good luck and hopefully there will be more good fortune for you
