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The ring camera showed he left yesterday with a bag of clothes.
My XW messaged me one evening declaring she was staying at a local campground now. I didn’t ask her to leave. I didn’t pressure her to leave. I did tell her it was not OK to be in our home AND accepting attentions from OM.
Originally Posted by PamCakes
He hasn't come home. Hasn't texted. I haven't either.
He agreed to be home by 5pm tonight to watch our kid so I could go to my 3rd job, but never showed up. Haven't seen hide nor hair of him. Luckily, my oldest daughter stayed home.
-> Have no expectations.
This is repeated around here. It has multiple dimensions. For all the old rules. The expectations we had of each other. The covert contracts. Our patterns. All shattered.
Restart from Zero.
Don’t expect an outcome. Don’t expect previous behaviors Don’t expect reliability Don’t expect truth Don’t expect ….
It may be intentional on their part. It may be unintentional from whatever their pressured and disturbed mental and emotional state is. You might not be able to tell or ever know.
Where does that leave you? Accept what IS right now. Accept it IS a great loss. Plan your life for you and child. - If he does something good, appreciate it. - If not, you didn’t expect anything anyway. - If he exhibits bad behavior, consider a boundary (not to punish, but to protect yourself).
Become/rebuild to be the woman only a fool would leave.
