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Oh yes, these lost folks will push your buttons and try to goad you into a fight/argument. Very much like a teenager, not wanting to take responsibility for their behaviours that lead to problems.
I loved how you preempted H’s rant by agreeing with him. Still, you had to stop him and point that out. They aren’t really listening, more assuming your response and looking for a fight.
H is being driven emotionally. He will act and argue based upon that. It is infuriating how immune they are to logic and reason. H will say the sky is red, and no amount of explaining, or arguing, or anything will make him see the truth.
Not taking his bait to these attempts at conflict is excellent, and difficult to do. H will likely ramp up his attempts. It’s part teenage rebellion, testing your changes, testing your boundaries, seeing if you’ll accept him, how far he can push, trying to make you the bad guy, and so on. Validate where you can, and let him be. Don’t get dragged into his world/fight.
Boundaries. Lots of times their need for conflict continues to increase and the LBS must implement boundaries. Premeditated action you will take if/when H is disrespectful, swearing, overly argumentative, and such. Like you did with him arguing, a direct statement, followed by immediate action. Example: “H, I’m willing to discuss with you. But when you swear and yell, I will leave the room.” And do it. A boundary must be rock solid. And yes, H will test it.
Originally Posted by bkerchik
I was also in the middle of cleaning and all of a sudden I’m like why am I doing this? And I could truthfully say it was for me and the girls. I’ve always said those things to myself but I felt different this time. Is that weird?
