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It does feel very wrong . It will feel that way for quite awhile .
Oh how I feel for you with the lack of a real fight . Look at it a different though . You have grown to not allow yourself to even get to that point . Same here I took back control of how I handle my emotions and what allow around my children . I wasn’t much of a yeller to begin with but was a push over . Took a long time to balance getting my point across in just a few words and most of it not being negotiable. Boundaries . Your H saying it was to keep the peace is just an excuse . Ignore it . Really just ignore it . They say all types of craziness .
Just a few words of advice when he asks what you have planned . I used to be an oversharer. Keep it short . I have plans or errands . I have a little name I call it . Ghost mode . I just drop off . If it was not kid related that needed attention I would not respond . I will always respond to my children though .
It’s very sad . Even while I’m somewhat I would say in repair . I am a way different person .
It’s been I think about 8-9 months for BD for me . Some of the things that I can tell you that have slowly come out when H does talk are : you gave me space , you didn’t pressure me , you didn’t need or want anything from me , you were rock solid if I stayed or left . Very different than the spew he spit out with a list of everything I did wrong . I get a lot more of he’s fearful I will boot him .
Hang in there . It’s a long haul . Sending you hugs and kisses .
