I am glad to read that you have seen a lawyer. Do not discuss with him what the lawyer has advised you to do.

Treat him as if he were a roommate for now. Continue fixing meals and if he comes to eat, fine. If he doesn't that is fine too. Try to remember that he is starting to revolt against authority. That means he will begin to look at you as if you are an authority figure, i.e., mother. Eventually, he will resent having to tell you and your children where he is at and with whom.

If he is pressured, he will continue to talk about moving out. If that comes up again, he may consider moving into another room for a bit, but I suspect he will move out. The pressure of trying to be the person that you know, and love will be too much for him. He is very much aware that something is wrong, and he just can't figure out why he feels the way that he does. Depression plans a huge role in MLC.

People are starting to see that he's changing. Eventually, he will leave you, the family, pets, home and friends behind for a while and hook up with new people. Most likely a younger set of friends, divorced/separated friends, etc. This is part of the crisis.

I would not bring up anything that he has said. Listen, observe and file the info away in your memory or come here and write things down.

BTW, you are not complaining, you are trying to figure things out and how to deal with the new person that is living in your h's body. In fact, what is happening is called the mirror image of him. He will do the opposite of what he's done in the past and trust me, you will question your sanity along the way.

I am glad you had an amazing day with your D. Keep the focus on you and your family. Continue to watch the bank accounts and most importantly, come here whenever you need to talk.