I'm smiling as I read through your update. I love that you're comfortable putting your self first. You're deciding based on what you want and not concerned with others thoughts/opinions. Compromising may be necessary in marriage, but not every scenario warrants a compromise. I hear that in your update. You give me something to strive towards, as I know this direction/advice is shared here often.

You are reaping what you sowed. Happy for you!