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Try not to retrospectively label your ex to make sense of their behaviour.
That’s a rabbit hole you don’t want to go down. 95% of divorced people will tell you their ex was a NPD, a cluster B, BPD… and given less than 1% of the population actually are, it’s likely a coping mechanism and nothing more.
Sometimes, people just do sh*tty things. Nothing more, nothing less. Labeling them achieves nothing - except making you feel better.
I think you’ll probably find her apparently non-sensical time-wasting is being driven by the lawyer, and I almost guarantee her lawyer is being paid by the hour. So they will continue to ignore, delay, request, act surprised, write letters and generally waste everyone’s time … until they’ve extracted every last cent they can.
Is it frustrating to be stuck in the middle of it all? Absolutely!
If I were you, I’d be expecting the games to continue a bit longer. But don’t let it get to you - they can’t delay forever.
Imagine yourself as a dry leaf in a tornado - you can get incredibly frustrated at being tossed about, or you can just let the wind take you wherever it wants - in the knowledge that eventually, this too will blow over.
