A new daily routine will help . Just getting outside and venturing off for a walk . My dog I swear is my new unofficial emotional support animal . Will go just about anywhere with me in my truck .

The I don’t want to tell people or them to know is just tough . I did not go blasting my H affair but I did lean on my close circle . The anxiety these stitches cause can be hard to handle . It is hard not to reach out to your H for support because that is what you have always done . Lots of space . Lots of space . They need it but mostly you do . Listening and knowing when to cut off toxic or unhealthy conversations takes time . I had one a few weeks ago . H was going on about something . I don’t even remember what , that’s how much it didn’t bother me . I said if you keep going I will hang up . H said go ahead and hang up to almost taunt me . Didn’t even flinch . I hung up . And no I didn’t answer the calls when he tried to call back . H came home later and said sorry I was way out of line . I swear they are like children . Hasn’t happened again . You will see a slow shift of you set the tone for communication . Trust me they will push the limits on it . One thing that was helpful was a member suggested boundaries . I picked a few that were just for me . If the random texts are causing more anxiety as DNJ said cut them off and lump them into once a week or do not engage in it . Hang in there . You got this !