It is hard and doesn’t feel right . My take on the group chat is they either avoid or try to save face . He is trying to alleviate guilt by say “I’ll take care of you “. There are some really good members on here who gave me some what I call stern advice on not responding or how to respond . At first I listened to everything H was just spewing . It took some time to just learn how to shut that down . I see your children are older . Exactly what type of input is he asking for ? If it’s random and has no significant impact on you or children at that very moment I wouldn’t even respond and go completely dark . I found when I gave a few examples I got useful feedback .