Hi Everyone,
It's been a couple of weeks already! Time flies when you're GAL'ing!

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words. It's very helpful. Yes, it's one day at a time and no decisions need to be made, but I'm a planner and I like to have a map of where things might go. I've got to reflect on what has happened in the last month, year, 5, 10 years and really re-evaluate it.

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Any reconciliation will be creating a new relationship, not saving the old marriage. In that respect, divorced or not matters little.
I love this. It's totally true. And I'm not sure I would choose H all over again. At least, not H in his current state.

Last week we dropped off S18 at college so I am an officially an empty nester! It's just me and the dogs now! Aside from figuring out how to to cook for one, I'm enjoying the peace and quiet and freedom. I can breathe! I've been spending time clearing out junk and organizing and it's been great (yes, this is what I consider "great").

College dropoff went smoothly. H came with but had his own hotel room and drove his own car. Except for one moment when he told me not to yell my son's name to get his attention (which I find ridiculous), we got along. We ate meals together, we went to Target together to get supplies and gave each other a hug when it was time to say goodbye.

On my drive home H called me and said THANK YOU for handling S18's move - he appreciated all the hard work and planning that went into it. Well knock me over with a feather! I just told him I appreciated him saying that and yes, it's a lot of work.

Other than that it's been quiet from H side. I'm piling up his mail. He ordered something and it arrived here and I assume he'll figure that out at some point. I had to communicate with him re: my dogs and we are still on group chat with the boys but I am laying low regarding my plans, whereabouts etc. and he is doing same.

The other thing that happened is that when I was talking to S20 today he said, "Dad says hi." I asked him for clarification - your father said tell Mom hi? S20 said yes. That is classic H. Do everything except communicate directly. I just said "Ok" - not "say hi back" or anything like that .

It reminded me of the time when I was on a work trip and my phone wasn't receiving texts, so instead of CALLING ME or CALLING THE HOTEL he went on Facebook and tried to reach out to my friends who were on the trip with me - it was so weird.

I've been GAL'ing plenty - I had 2 amazing GAL activities today and more lined up over the next few weeks - even turned down a GAL! Not feeling sad or sorry for myself. My friends are a little envious of my "no H house", LOL!