When I got my final papers, I had to get them notarized. So I stood with 3 people that I didn't know very well, so that they could witness the end of my marriage.
3 people that didn't know me, or her. Didn't know the joys and sadness, the trials and tribulations, the for richer or poorer, the sickness and health of our marriage....
And they watched it end with a click of a pen....
What it didn't do however, was to change my heart, my feelings or emotions, and it sure as heck didn't take away my memories of it.
With that click of the Bic, I had a million emotions wash across me in an instant, and I felt the sting from a thousand needles while a tear welled in my eye.....
Then it was gone. Or at least the intensity of it was gone.
That paper doesn't and won't define what your marriage was, and it sure as F won't define who YOU are....
Feel this, let it burn deep for a minute, then process it and let it go....
Your vows have nothing to do with your spouse, Ex-spouse, or even the legal side of a marriage....
