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Whatlee, hope you're doing well under the circumstances.
For what it's worth, I was a very open book with 4 people in my life after BD. I needed to vent and share and get advice. That number is now down to 1 and sometimes 2. I've learned so much about MLC and I've found that my sharing with people didn't render the results I expected. People don't always know what to say or how to support us. Sometimes, people want our hurt to go away and suggest that we move on. People may look at us (or even tell us) that we're delusional because what we share doesn't make sense. I can't fault them. Instead, I started questioning why I share. What do I gain from sharing?
Now, I have one person that I share near everything with. She has a strong understanding of MLC. Still shakes her head, but really tries to see it as a mental health issue. Still, there are days (including yesterday), that she suggests talking with H. I've told her that I can't control her actions but that I don't think H is ready to hear from her. To date, she's held off.
I say all this because I can hear your pain and disappointment in responses/reactions. Think through why you share/vent and make adjustments, if warranted.
You know this community understands and can give you direction, 2x4s, support, strength. You may not always hear what you want to hear, but you know we understand and can.
