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I would think long and hard as to what you want. The one thing that you will not get back right now is your husband. So, I would treat this situation now as a business that has gone bust. Think about what you want. You should be entitled to half of everything. If he is so all fired up for a divorce, he may give you anything and everything you ask for. If you want the house, ask for it. You may be able to negotiate with him to buy him out at a reduced rate. Sit down and look at all of the retirement accounts and any life insurance policies you have on him.
When my xh wanted out desperately, he wanted a very small amount to buy him out of the house and at the courthouse, I also, at the last minute, wanted half of his 40lK account, since I was involved in the deposits. I got the $10,000 I asked for and he didn't blink an eye. I'm not saying take him to the cleaners, but you need to think of what you need to live on and yes, you, as his wife, are entitled to some of what has been made while married.
When they are that desperate, they will just about do anything...but be prepared...he may go back to the ow and discuss it w/her and she may advise him not to give you what you ask for. I would hold out as long as you can because at the end of the day, he just may give you what you asked for.
As I stated, you do not want your h back in the shape he is in right now. Leave him in God's hands.
