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Great point about W moving at a slower pace. It is definitely the case that I'm working to meet her where she is as she is ready and willing. I've still got plans with friends, time with D14, some solid "me" time, and more on the books at the same time. My IC has been available to meet again so we're doing some work on mental health hygiene for myself. I've also picked up about 20 lbs since the pandemic/March 2020 which I'm trying to chip away at. Continuing this work helps me extend patience to W. It feels different (in a good way) than after DB round 1. W appears to be fully "back in the game" of busting the potential for a D.
I'm happy to hear you are still taking care of YOU. So many folks forget to in the early stages of piecing - they tend to focus too much back on the marriage. This tends to backfire as the only way we can really know if our spouse's change is true is to just keep on our journey and see if they want to join us on the path.
Couples counseling can be a slow go at it. As long as you see your wife creating and utilizing new coping mechanisms (versus saying she wants a divorce when she hits emotional capacity) than progress is being made.
