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There he is! I'm genuinely glad you popped in with an update.
As Catman and DnJ suggest, you sound poised and confident in yourself, your actions, and about what you deserve. One might argue that is an equally appropriate outcome from divorce-busting: you're busting divorce's ability to drag you down, win, or derail your life beyond what reasonably must happen.
When my parents got divorce, I can't even recall them telling me or advising me it wasn't my fault. It just kind of happened. For a few years, I felt like I was the cause and realized that a then 12-year-old didn't have that kind of power. You likely know this and I'm only saying it to help reinforce it: your kids will need to regularly be reminded that none of this is their fault. Even as an adult, I have moments where I catch myself thinking "Well...it kind of is my fault because I wasn't a planned pregnancy". Thankfully as an adult, I quickly catch how ludicrous it is. I got great advice from my IC about talking with my D14 about the situation too and recommend leveraging one, though you may already be doing so.
Professional sports players often reference how the game "slows down" for them when they're performing at their peak. I think we experience glimpses and then a version of this when we settle down, GAL, use the time we've been given wisely (as DnJ thankfully reminds us), and otherwise consistently practice DBing and related principles. Thanks again for keeping us posted. I felt better seeing your update and continue to cheer you on from the cheap seats!
