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I didn't know your story until your thread was revived, but congratulations!
You handled this as well as anyone in your situation could.
I admit that it's still a mystery to me why some like your W have a sudden epiphany while others never do. Realizing that perhaps the person they fell in love with is still in there, even if they appeared hidden, and if given the chance, that person can re-emerge.
Yeah I don't know either. In terms of practical reasons, I do think that a big part of what slowed her down long enough to have had a change of heart was her getting cold feet about the financial situation---it's easier to let your anger guide you toward divorce if you hold onto the fantasy that your lifestyle will somehow magically remain the same.
And then, according to her, she did have what she interpreted as some sort of divine message. The details are a little fuzzy to me, as she mentioned it only once and did not dwell on it, but apparently the morning that we were going to have our big early morning discussion about the outlines of a divorce, something did happen that made her think that someone or something was trying to tell her to stay. Obviously, she must have still been genuinely struggling with her decision at that point, however, to have been open to such a message.
I think I read some of your story in your thread but I'll have to go back to read it and check. I may comment there.
