My condolences to you and your family on the loss of your cousin. It is never easy. It's going to take some time to sort through the funeral and yes, the legal system. As you know, my family and I are going through the legal issues right now and I am more than happy to share what we learn along the way. The deed to his place will take some time. She will most likely need to produce the marriage license as proof that she is his widow along the way. I think settling up estates is harder on families because you do not have the proper amount of time to grieve properly before you have to deal with the legal issues. Again, I will be happy to share what I discover along my path with you.
Now about the xw. She is a very angry woman who cannot understand why she is in the mess she's in. She cannot understand why her children do not want to be around the OM and her life style. She is just an angry woman and she's stuck. She is absolutely stuck. She is right where she was several years ago. I wouldn't blame your children if they chose not to be around her. Her mission in life is to make the family as miserable as she is. Unfortunately for her, your children are all now grown and can make decisions for themselves. She missed out on so many important events that can never be recreated.
I am glad you are there to listen and provide a shoulder to lean on for your children. Lord knows she isn't capable of being there for them.
Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you and your family during this time of mourning.
