How can I forgive someone who seems so indifferent to what she's done?
How can I forgive someone who seems so remorseful to what she’s done?
Is there a difference?
Don’t try to forgive the person. That places one on an illusionary moral high ground, from where one dispenses forgiveness to the worthy. None of us can see all ends, or knows who “deserves” forgiveness or not. Forgiving the soul is the providence of God.
We forgive the transgression. The deed. The action. (The immutable past.)
Love the sinner, forgive the sin.
How can I forgive the affair? (The drinking?) That’s the path. It starts with “Can I forgive the affair?”. The first step in finding how to forgive, is realizing you can. Believing you can.
Once you figure that out, the focus automatically shifts off her. As forgiveness is for you.
