Glad to read your Christmas festivities are coming together. Really good to see you and the kids all involved.
I have a suggestion I want you to really consider. Be accurate in thought and heart. Speak and act with purpose and clarity.
Also significantly banish your use of the word “but”.
As an example:
Originally Posted by Rockon
I have been really focused on work - it’s going well and i have increased my hours - managing but i am finding everything altogether stressful and a lot to deal with.
Really? Everything? Everything is stressful?
Be specific with yourself. And us, within the confines of workplace confidentiality and such.
Remember, your mind is listening. When you say everything is stressful, it will be.
I’m not saying there is no stress. No, far from it. Life is stress. Let me give you an example from my recent life.
Sunday I felt quite stressed. Everything was starting to feel stressful. That was what my mind was doing. Didn’t help that I was also getting sick. Anyhow, I thought about it, and realized that the huge pile of dishes from the concert/sing-a-long that I had left stack up on the counter was the source of that stress. Every time I walked by that pile. To get a drink. Go to the bathroom. Whatever. There it was. And I painted that stress upon other facets of my life.
Of course, if I had just did the dishes before… well whatever woulda shoulda coulda. So, I did ‘em. And felt way better.
That’s a time to aim small. Be specific about what is bother you, and you can take specific action. “Everything” is just way too overwhelming.
The word “but” empathizes and reinforces our concatenation and usually implied severity (although at times unintentional) of dissimilar things. How about:
I have been really focused on work. It’s going well and I have increased my hours. There is lots to deal with, some stress, and surprisingly I’m managing quite well.
Rock, I care about you, and I’m not dismissing nor belittling your stresses. I am simply illustrating how one paints their life, and writes their story; even through the smallest of actions and words.
Just something for you to consider.
Merry Christmas Rock. All my best to you and your’s. And I hope you have a peaceful time.
