Originally Posted by MrP
What do you think, fellow DBers?
As long as there is not OM in the picture, You give her two choices YOU ARE FINE WITH:

A) Join us
B) Go do what ever you want.

And yes, word smith the "Join us" with no pressure.

Start here and revise as many times as needed :"You are welcome to join us, but I understand if you would prefer not to go"