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Oddly enough she has girl friends at work that rub her neck and she said they cant do it as good as I can. Im sure that is just something she says to keep me holding on though.
Garden variety manipulation. Very straight forward. Women know what makes men tick, and they will happily use it to their advantage.
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I honestly feel like she knows this is going to be a mistake and she may not realize how big until she is out on her own. She has talked about so much of how she is going to struggle.
Lots of people come here saying the same thing.
It’s very unlikely that 5 years down the road she says “This was a big mistake.” Never pin your hopes on that. You need to work out how to be okay with that never happening. My ex-wife’s life is a train wreck. I’m about to remarry to the love of my life, and she’s sleeping on the floor at her parent’s house and can’t make ends meet. Do you think she’s come along and said “I stuffed up, leaving you was a big mistake!”? Hell no!! She’s now on social media claiming she was a victim of domestic violence to try and justify her decision. Says she loved me but had to leave 😂
People who break marriages will have a narrative. They will most likely double down and strengthen it, not take responsibility for their actions.
Be really wary of “Everyone around me says she is making a big mistake” or “maybe she knows she’s making a big mistake” type statements. They aren’t helpful and are more about you and your headspace (and wanting validation) than anything else.
She has said she might struggle because she’s checking her backup plan. She is fishing for you to say “I’ll always be there for you if life gets hard.”
Best response “You sound worried about the future. I know I’m going to be great no matter what 😎”
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off to another session of IC. Sometimes I wonder if the therapy helps. I feel like it does but not sure if it’s real or just me trying to make it somehow real.
Try a different IC. It’s very common to need to try a few before you find one that clicks. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but then you should start to see some significant progress pretty quickly.
