Hey DL,

I think by now you realize that everything you did over the weekend pushed W further away.

Next time you are tempted, remember exactly how you're feeling right now. And promise yourself you won't repeat your mistakes.

Every single person I've seen get their WAS back on these boards did one thing - they let the WAS go (me included).

One thing that helped me was to think of what an alpha male would do in this situation. For instance, if James Bond's W decided to leave him, would he start chasing her? Absolutely not. He'd smile and dare her to find someone better. I'm not saying to act like a cocky A-hole. But you should quietly be giving off a vibe that you're excited about life without her. I'd start acting like I was excited about selling the house.

You've seen that it piques her interest when you're mysterious, right? So be mysterious FOREVER until she very clearly decides she hopes YOU will give her another chance. And anytime she tries to bait you in her robe, or hints at wanting you back in order for you to tell her what she wants to know - don't take the bait! Smile with a twinkle in your eye and walk away. She'll even get mad at you, that's totally OK because a woman has to respect you if she's ever going to love you. Let her be mad. Let her threaten. Let her go date OM (hint - she's less likely to date OM if you are acting like an alpha male). Ask yourself, what would James Bond do?

IF your wife decides she wants to come back, she will make it VERY CLEAR. She will literally pursue you, and sometimes even beg for another chance with you.

There are no shortcuts. If there were, this website wouldn't exist.

Face your fear, DL. I know it's the hardest thing you will ever do, I remember it well when I was going through it. Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. This experience literally catapulted me into growing more than I ever thought possible. It will for you too, IF you tackle your emotions and remain non-reactive.