Hi Sunflyer - Agreed. Unfortunately, we're looking for logic where it may not exist. Feelings a driving the bus, fears, negative sentiments override, and lots of other unhelpful factors. As a few posters say, one of the best strategies is to try to minimize our presence and detach so that hopefully the person 1) sees that the problems exist when we're not there and 2) starts to miss the love and support we'd been there to provide in the past. The visual of pouring gas on a house fire is spot on.
