Again just crystallizing/journaling more thoughts...things I've done for myself and some things I want to do...
Implemented:
1. Talks with W limited to parenting and managing the family. R is never brought up. 2. Behaviors that could be interpreted as pushy have ceased. No words of affection, no discussion of my views on divorce for four months. She knows my feelings on the matter. No offering to help her with tasks. If she asks, I will consider, but I won't solve problems for her. (Her next round of surgery is coming up, so I may once again have to help with some things she will not physically be able to do). 3. Enjoying my hobbies and pastimes more. Had a hard time enjoying them in the first two months post-BD. 4. Started wearing hair shorter. Like it and will continue. 5. Hygiene: getting new toothpaste (yup, decided I don't like the one that is around the house and won't just continue using it because it is convenient). Have never been much of a cologne or aftershave kind of guy but went to the store and found an aftershave whose scent I like. Going to add that to my routine too. 6. Making plans for what I want out of my life in the future, whether W is there or not. I think about the future every single day, concentrating on the positive aspects of it. 7. Engaging with my boys "on their level," trying to take greater interest in what they like, even if their interests differ from mine.
Want to do:
1. Still feel I am short-changing myself on time spent on fun/GAL. Need to ramp that up more. 2. Need to increase physical activity. Have lost ten pounds but feel I could take off a few more. 3. Need to start sorting wardrobe and tossing stuff I don't want or don't use and think about replacements.
