Hi DnJ, yes you are right. She can take it deeper underground if she want, that's why what she says are just empty words if she is not going to stick to them and act accordingly. I have told it to her already. I am not going to fix things for her, but what I meant was to work on things that I was responsible for as a man and husband and where I obviously failed so it turned her off. But why she decided to cheat instead of talking/working on the issues is different stuff. I am not going to rush things, I give it time and patience and we will see. Still working on myself to be a better version of me. Long road ahead of me/us. Thank you and the guys for your advice and kind uplifting words. DB/DR and Healing from infidelity books just arrived so I can go through them finally. I will post here any news or significant update (do not want to spam this thread though). Thanks and have a great day too.