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I did and am doing GAL and she noticed that but she as new "software" in her head right now so it is really hard to attract or somehow lure her back. Apparently she must go thru it on her own, hit the rock bottom and than maybe she realise that the grass is not always greener on the other side. She is now experiencing things she never experienced with me so she is biased and maybe thinks to herself that if she goes back everything would be as it was before. This OM shows affection, love-bombs her, declares eternal love everyday and she enjoys that. It is hard to prove that I am able to give her what she needs and fulfill all her secret needs as well because she built a wall. She is not attracted to me anymore so it does not make sense to write her "love letters" etc.. so yes the best approach would be doing GAL and all this stuff and maybe she realises along the path that I am the best catch for her. Or maybe I find someone else who will value me for what I am. Who knows.
This is it 100%.
My sister was married to a man who had an affair with my sister's co-worker. He filed for divorce, apparently convinced that he had made a mistake marrying my sister.
Want to guess how that worked out for him?
You move forward (not the same as moving on). You sound like a fundamentally good man who has recognized his mistakes. If she wants to throw your marriage away despite that, then take your improved self to someone else who will appreciate you.
I know it is hard to control emotions, but as others have said, throwing ultimatums will not help. Let her build the bed she is going to lie in.
