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Hi Peter It really is a horrible place to be in and we can all safely say we know the pain. The grief is a terrible thing and cycles like the moon. Sometimes we are ok and sometimes we are not and the emotional pull is in full force.Those days of emotional turmoil so stretch out and become less and less as you go through the process. I think you need to remember everything takes time and just wake up each day and take it one day at a time. There’s no point thinking ahead to a week a month a year as the roller coaster has just begun. One thing I strongly suggest which really helps me is to do 3 positive things for yourself each day. Of course we try and GAL every day but some days it doesn’t always fit into the plan. However 3 small positive things for yourself can really help you shift your mood. Mine can sometimes just be really simple like taking a bath, walking the dog, even just cuddling the dog on the couch at the end of the day with a cup of tea. Try not to waste all your unnecessary energy and time thinking about what W and OM are up to and I would honestly not bother with the messages. I think the less you know the better. These spouses of ours have made their beds and now have to live with it and it’s not up to us to be responsible for their actions and their fallout
