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Thank you everyone for the replies and support. It makes this extremely difficult situation easier by being a part of this community.
Sunflyer - I've read a lot of your posts even before you posted on mine and loved your Manifesto. Its crazy how so many of us with presumably different backgrounds, races, religions, upbringing, life experiences, etc all have or going through the same situation with people who exhibit the same characteristics.
Yesterday we had as "normal" a day as we've had in a little while. My W asked a few questions about our R. I answered them but then tried to change the subject. We are not in a spot where anything will be resolved by us talking about things. I think she let her guard down for a bit because we were all together hanging out by the community pool. But she did not the DB techniques because it was such a switch from the constant R talks, the following her around the house like a puppy, the text messages, etc. I was doing all the wrong things and when I started DB she noticed right away. She told me I was being "distant" and why the change. I validated her feelings and moved on.
The issue with DBing that a few of us face is that for our W, its more of the same. Meaning when my W and I used to have arguments, I would just retract and not really speak to her unless spoken to and keep my distance. Recently when I started DBing, thats what she thought/thinks I am doing.
