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Lots of a person’s identity come from their employment. One of the first questions one asks a new person they meet is what do they do for a living. For H to need to cease his career, a lifetime of labour, one that he is proud of, would be quite a blow. The reason being shoulder injuries amplifies the “getting old” that is rattling round in his head.
There are several transitions from stage to stage during one’s life; childhood to teen, teen to adult for example. The midlife adjustment of accepting mortality, looking to retirement, kids grown and leaving, and so on, is a big one. The move from career to golden years can range from a gentle slide to all out internal fight.
We all battle transitions and changes to some extent as we resolve outstanding items and accept life’s losses. Yet for some they have such a pile of unsolved and unrealized luggage, they just don’t understand what is going on within them.
We all grieve the loss of our youth; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. A person consumed by crisis gets severely bogged down in depression and bargaining. They feel terrible and try all kinds of things to feel like their “older” younger self. A do over for what they feel they missed out on the first go around.
All H’s issues were always bubbling beneath the surface. Eventually life was going to toss a triggering event his way.
Originally Posted by Love4Him
Now working on getting a second job since my income doesn't cover everything. Credit card bills are mounting! H will be going back to work in a few weeks but I'm not counting on his help. He makes far more money than I do but has not been spending it wisely to say the least.
Watch the finances. MLCers are usually terrible with money, and can burn through a lifetime of savings.
We LBS are on two paths - the emotional/healing journey and business side of things. Keep them separate. When dealing with business type stuff, keep your emotions out of it and use your logic and reason. Speak to L to learn your rights and options. You need not enact anything, this is just for knowledge. However, if H starts to go down the rabbit hole and burning through cash, you will have a head start. Knowledge is power.
