Originally Posted by teteme55
....any other ideas and suggestions are welcome...

Compartmentalizing things helps...IE separate the legal part of the relationship from the emotional part from the DBing part etc...

Learn and implement as many positive behavior changes into your life and DB your butt off.

Seek legal advise. Knowledge is power. I believe it is important to get free consults with the TOP 3 divorce lawyers in your area. If your H does choose the D path, the lawyers you visited with are out of his selection pool. (Of course confirm this with a real lawyer).

Look up "Stockdale paradox" and figure out how to apply that to your current sitch. Plan for the worst but hope for the best.

HUGS