Thankyou Mike yes I ended up stopping the “dropping” by as H wants a few weeks ago. It was too emotional for me. Now I always know when he’s coming and he always asks. Thankyou Cadet and Steve. I think for now giving myself a fixed date in my mind ( without H knowing) of when I am giving it to might be good for my own peace of mind just so I don’t keep thinking each day “ is today the day he wants to come home “ I certainly plan on GaL too when I can.