There is so much more to be learned! I think my daughter is still my vulnerable spot. I'm terrified of the impact of H's behaviour on her and as a few have pointed out, I need to allow her to make her own choices. She has said a couple of times that she would rather have her friends round than spend an evening with her dad & I need to start respecting her wishes so thank you for the guidance kind, R2C & DnJ.
As for me, today was a little more difficult. Its weekend and that's always harder because I know its when he sees OW. I went out for a coffee with an old friend who just sent me a lovely message "It was lovely to see you M - and I was pleased to see that you are strong . I’m sure you’ll have your ups and downs but you’re doing brilliantly . And I thought you looked so beautiful - but you are M , inside and out . Look after those lovely kids of yours and take care of yourself . I’ll get in touch in about a month and hopefully we can meet up again . Xxx❤️ "
I've had so many similar messages when people have found out. I think whatever happens including my worse case scenario, I'll be ok. I just need to ride the current storm and remind myself to notice rather than respond immediately to those strong urges that pull me back to neediness & my own vulnerability.
I just wanted to say thank you for all the support & guidance. I remember my first post when I wasn't certain there was an OW & someone commented that there almost definitely was. I hated reading it & took huge offence, nearly downing tools & leaving the site. I'm so glad I didn't the advice both in response to my own posts and reading others has been invaluable in keeping me thoughtful of my reactions, which I have no doubt will pay dividends in the long run one way or another.
