Is it all in my head or is her going all the way to GA really to see him?
Does it matter ???
JR...
Look man, you are trying to rush this process. Being a guy is hard in this. We have our bravado, and nature built this thing into us where we think that we can fix any F-ing thing....
And now, you've run up against something that you can't fix, and you are gonna have anxiety about it, and you are gonna let the monsters in your head out to play every time you don't know what / where/ how she is....
Control of you, your life, your wife, your situation is slipping through your fingers, and you are scared AF about it....
Your fears are gonna drive you wild until you can make sense of this.
The cold hard truth right now is that you've been fired from your job as her Husband. The marriage that "you" envisioned isn't the same marriage that "she" is envisioning right now.
The way that she sees things isn't the same as you are seeing them.
I've always said that there are 3 sides to a story. Your truth, her truth, and somewhere in the middle is where the real truth usually lies.
Your truths are not gonna match up right now.
Her truth is moving her forward, and your truth is the pain in your posts.
For now though.....
READ what has been posted to you....
Slow your mind by realizing that you aren't the first person this has happened to and you have support around you. Possibly the best support that you can find.
You need to start sorting out your truths, and finding your focus and balance.
Being Military, you are going to have people that are going to try and talk you into what you should do with YOUR life....
And you need to be sure before you follow the guy that's been Divorced 4 times, giving you relationship advice.
Whatever happens, whatever outcome you find yourself in, you want to make sure that they are YOUR decisions, and that they aren't emotional decisions that you can't take back....
Everything going on with you....today.....is temporary.....
Same as tomorrow will be.....
And you get to choose what you do with that.....
I have more that I am going to share....
For now though....
Just read the resources. Get lost in them....
Try to stop the monsters in your head from driving you off the deck.....
