Let me give you an example of closing the bakery.

BD
Swearing up and down there isn't anyone else.

FF some small amount of time, maybe a week? I can't remember but we were on Facetime and I told him there were some medical bills coming that needed to be paid, because I'd gone to my OB/GYN and had a full STD panel done. He was aghast, told me that I was over reacting and that he'd told me there was no need for that. I said, "You also told me you weren't ever going to leave. You also promised to stay married for the rest of our lives. I'm sorry, your credibility is non-existent. I need to stay healthy for my own sake as well as for our son's. I'm not trusting my health to you."

Now. Truth dart?
Too far?

I dunno.

But ... what I do know is that the message was received loud and clear:
1. you've damaged this relationship
2. I no longer trust you
3. I'm not going to put myself at risk for you.