also, re: anger --- everyone kept asking me why I wasn't angry during our separation, which was 19 months between BD and D. And I was, I had moments for sure. But over all I felt sadness, compassion, love and definitely owned my side of the street and maybe a little of his too... but man, when the anger came??? Holy $h!t!!!!! It was so deep, so vast, I remember saying to my IC that if I let it out it felt like it would destroy everything around me.
There's a meme going around. You may see it some time. I believe there's a lot of truth to it. This is what it says,
"I sat with Anger for a long time, until She told me her real name was Grief."
