. Mach-In the beginning I did compare myself, hard not to. I stopped doing that after awhile though when I realized it did no good. I will admit when he showed up to the first tournament I started doing it again. At the second tournament I had the same thought as you- I'm sitting here with her and he is probably wishing he was. I really did handle it well last weekend. I was only mildly annoyed at seeing him and just let it go. While I would love to beat his azz, I made sure where he was each time I got up to use the restroom or go to the concession stand. I wanted to avoid running into him at all costs so I wouldn't say or do anything. Especially in that setting. It never occurred to me that W "staring" at him could have very well been her wondering why he was there as well. My thoughts were that she told him. It wouldn't make sense for her to tell him knowing that I would be there. And she knows I would. D13 has played multiple sports, s17 played sports and was in band, d223 was in band and marching band. I have never missed a, nor will I, any of my kids events. I played sports most of my childhood and my parents rarely attended anything. Most of the time I had to catch rides everywhere. When my kids started, I made sure to never let anything I could control cause me to miss their activities. So far I'm batting 1000 and proud of it. Let me tell you, some of those band concerts were brutal though. Thanks for the input as always. What's the KWIM at the bottom of your post?
Been there with ya on that one....
After my bomb, I sat through a Christmas Party with my Ex's first AP, we had a long conversation about several things. All before I knew of course, yet in my devastation, it never occurred to me that there was a deep level of betrayal. I can't say that I didn't suspect it, yet I just didn't realize it.
I saw him a couple years later and he turned face and hustled in the other direction. Azz whippins were half price that day....
As I sit here today though, I'm glad that I didn't pursue that, and was the bigger person.
That's why I said that I would love to see you operate on a level that this asshat can't even reach. He isn't worth your time or efforts, and while you may feel good in the moment, I don't think that is who you want to be at the end of the day.
Keep being the rock Mike, you really won't regret it. I wouldn't worry about him too much, and certainly wouldn't let HIM stop you from doing whatever you want to do while you are there. I would also venture that he is even more uncomfortable with the thought of having to face you, than you are him. Unless he is a complete whack job, which I guess is entirely possible. I would however be interested in what he would do if he was faced with you....Hmmmm
I hear ya on the band concerts....been through a few of them too....
