Fun Honesty Kindness Work Compassion Kindness Patience Faithfulness Responsibility Integrity Respectful communication Fairness Loyalty Perseverance Loyalty Joy Strength Humility Faith Courage Hope Cooperation Family Friends Community Trust Care
Values it seems to me that W is showing kids:
Freedom Independence Convenience Opportunity Happiness Secrecy Fun
That’s a good list of things you care about. It’s accurate and reasonable.
I’d like you to consider something. There is a difference between what one values and what are one’s actual values. Traits vs values.
Traits describe how one tends to behaves, thinks, or feels in a situation. They are derived from one’s values. Values or beliefs are the deeply held motivations for one’s actions or thoughts or feelings, regardless of the situation.
Beliefs are so deeply held, so ingrained into who one is, that a conflict of beliefs - not a trait or reaction - a conflict of belief between people is usually insurmountable. Beliefs guide and define one’s value system. They define right and wrong for that individual. A few examples being spirituality, integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty, etc.
A quick test: If someone can take it away, it is not a value.
Freedom of speech, money, are things that are valuable and can be taken away. Honesty, accountability, compassion, are values, and one chooses to live them or not.
Discovering one’s beliefs and convictions is usually quite eye opening. Strengthen those convictions that serve you. Craft ones you aspire to. And alter or discard those that do not serve. (We all have prejudices and bias that we’d be better served in letting go of.)
Once organized you have a pretty easy measuring stick. Real failure is failing to live by your values. Real success is living and taking action to embody them.
