I think your best bet to bust this divorce, FM, is to put the focus squarely on yourself and your children, leaving her to her own devices. If you then work to solidify a functional relationship with her as a co-parent rather than a spouse she'll hopefully start to see the changes in you and realize what she's throwing away.
Ie follow basic DB principles.
Completely agree 👍
trying to give him a specific blueprint and a vision of what could be if he does follow basic DB principles .... because they work
